Parenting!

Okay so along the lines of my last blog post, I wanna say something about missionaries again. Except this time, I’m going to talk about my missionary! I love this boy! So we send recorders back and forth, and I got his this week. He is such a sweetie. He records on it every day and tells me about his day and the people he is teaching and just what they are up to. Well this time he ended the recordings by saying something that he loves about me. So stinkin cute! And he also sent me some pictures from the package I sent to him for St. Patricks Day. And he would prolly be mad if he knew I put them up here, but he won’t read this for a long time haha so I’ll put a picture up J

So this week in class we’ve been talking about parenting. Some of the purposes of parenting are:

Transmit values and traditions

Teach about God

Practice and develop Godly qualities

Become refined

Provide protection

Learning

Protect and prepare our children to survive and thrive in the world they are going to live in

Contribute in the world they live in

It’s a commandment- “rear their children in righteousness…” – a sacred duty

When there is a problem, there are logical and natural consequences. Logical consequences are when a parent disciplines the child. For example, if a child takes the car out and is driving crazy, a parent could take the car away from them for a given amount of time. Natural consequences are when a child does something and it’s the consequence that just happens. For example, if you are told not to put your hands on the stove because it’s hot, and you do, your hands will burn. Natural consequences are good to use for teaching unless: it is too dangerous, it effects their future (the parent needs to be the teacher), or when it affects others.

Parenting is the most wonderful job two people can have. They get the opportunity to bring one of God’s children into the world and rear them in the right way.  And I can’t wait to have this as my main job!!

Okay have a great weekend!!! :) 

  

Money Money Money!!!

            So first off, I just want to say how much I love missionaries. I am so grateful for those young men and women that put off two years of their lives to serve the Lord. So many of my friends are all leaving or out already. Of course my boyfriend, Ian, who I have mentioned before, and my friend Tyler Barnes and Mitchell Rust are out. My friends Jacob Potts, Kyle Gardiner, and Blake Douglas are leaving this week. Mckay Allman and Hayden Petitta got their calls this week. Kirsten Shell, Jami Austin, and Lexi Wilcox are leaving soon. And one of my very best friends Will is getting his call next weekend. Tyler Ely, Connor Weeks, and Jared Varney are all working on their papers and about to put them in. I just wanted to give a shout out to all of them. I am so proud of them and the work they are doing. And I’m especially grateful for missionary work because I have personally seen the impact it can have on people’s lives. Ian was baptized two and half years ago and I was able to watch and be a part of that in his life. I am so grateful for the missionaries that helped him in that journey. Basically, I just love missionaries.

                Okay so now for this past week’s lesson. I know I already posted for this week, but that was before Friday’s lesson. Which was awesome. We read the pamphlet “One For The Money” and then talked about that in class. And if you haven’t read the pamphlet, you should. But until then, I’ll just write my notes from it. So it talks about ways to manage your money and what we need to do with our money in order to receive the blessings the Lord has for us. So these are the main points that were in there.

·         Pay an honest tithe

·         Learn to manage money before it manages you

·         Learn self-discipline and self-restraint in money matters

·         Use a budget

·         Teach family members early the importance of working and earning

·         Teach children to make money decisions in keeping with their capacities to comprehend

·         Teach each family member to contribute to the total family welfare

·         Make education a continuing process

·         Work toward home ownership

·         Appropriately involve yourself in an insurance program

·         Understand the influence of external forces on family finances and investments

·         Appropriately involve yourself in a food storage and emergency preparedness program

And I just think this is a brilliant list and it basically says it all. But I will do one comment. I think one of the most important thing is to teach family members early the importance of working and earning. My parents were great about this, they taught us early that we had to earn our things. Whenever we wanted something, even if it was something as simple as a candy bar, we had to work for it. We could do an extra chore or something and then we could get it. I am very grateful for them teaching me this because it has prepared me for living on my own. I have had a job most of my life and made my own money in order to be able to pay my own way through college. I know the importance of working and earning what I want. It also makes me value things more because I know what it took to get it.

And these are all the missionaries!! Love em! :)

Okay well that’s about it! Have a great week!! :) 

Working Mothers

               We talked about a few things this week, the thing I want to focus on now is working mothers. We talked about it in this class and we've also been talking about it in my other family class. What is being said is that it is not the role of mothers to work outside the home. I do not necessarily agree with everything that was said in the classes; but I will write what we have been told and talked about, as well as my opinion about it all.

                One of the things brought up in discussion was about the roles. Mother’s role is supposed to be in the home being a homemaker. It was said that in many cases it is better to barely be scraping by on the father’s salary than for both parents to go to work and have a better income. There is also a negative effect on children, they are either left at a friend’s, daycare or home alone or with siblings. When this happens, they often become more violent and learn from others rather than their parents.

                Those were just a few of the things that were talked about, and now my opinion… I do not agree with this look on things entirely. I do believe that it is most important for a mom to be a mother and take care of her children, to teach and nurture them. However, if the job is not getting in the way of being a mom, then I do not think that it is a bad thing. I think that while it is the father’s “job” to provide for the family, it is the mother’s role to help when needed. It is a partnership and both parents are responsible to take care of their family. My parents were divorced when I was in fifth grade and my mom started working. She had been a substitute teacher for a few years but then she took on another job so she could support our family. She worked with her manager to get hours where she would be away from us the least. I do not feel that it was terrible for me while growing up. I do believe that a mother should be there to care for her children; but if it is needed for her to work to help provide for the family, she should do so. When possible, get a job that would not get in the way of spending time with your children-work while they are at school, work from home, etc.

                And that’s my opinion about working mothers!

P.S this is my wonderful mom (and my sisters :) ) 

Have a great week!! J

Conflict, Crisis, and Communication

           Soo this week we have been talking about conflicts or crisis happening in a family.  Crisis is a trauma, when someone is unsatisfied with their current situation, something that puts the family at risk, or instability. Crisis is danger plus an opportunity. There will always be conflict and crisis in a family, you just have to learn how to deal with it. I think that is one of the most important things to learn before and when you are married. You need to go in with the mindset that there will be problems and learn how to handle them. if you go in to a relationship thinking that there will not be conflict then it will be harder to deal with them. But, if you learn how to handle them with each other, then your marriage will be more successful. Everyone deals with conflict differently and you and your spouse should be on the same page with dealing with them.

                We also talked about communication. The communication model that Brother Williams showed us is: Your thoughts and feelings, you encode them in how you tell the other person, the media, the other person decodes what you said, and finally their thoughts and feelings about what you said. You can never NOT communicate. Whether it is verbally or non-verbally, you are communicating some sort of message.

                And finally, most people do not like conflict and we deal with it in maybe not the best way. When people argue, they try to find a compromise. However this is ineffective because when you compromise both people end up feeling shafted and like they did not get what they want. When you argue you should find some solution in which you both can win.

                And that was our week about conflict!! Y’all have a great weekend! J