Soo this week we have been
talking about conflicts or crisis happening in a family. Crisis is a trauma, when someone is unsatisfied
with their current situation, something that puts the family at risk, or
instability. Crisis is danger plus an opportunity. There will always be
conflict and crisis in a family, you just have to learn how to deal with it. I think
that is one of the most important things to learn before and when you are
married. You need to go in with the mindset that there will be problems and
learn how to handle them. if you go in to a relationship thinking that there
will not be conflict then it will be harder to deal with them. But, if you
learn how to handle them with each other, then your marriage will be more
successful. Everyone deals with conflict differently and you and your spouse
should be on the same page with dealing with them.
We also talked about communication. The communication
model that Brother Williams showed us is: Your thoughts and feelings, you
encode them in how you tell the other person, the media, the other person
decodes what you said, and finally their thoughts and feelings about what you
said. You can never NOT communicate. Whether it is verbally or non-verbally,
you are communicating some sort of message.
And finally, most people do not like conflict and we
deal with it in maybe not the best way. When people argue, they try to find a
compromise. However this is ineffective because when you compromise both people
end up feeling shafted and like they did not get what they want. When you argue
you should find some solution in which you both can win.
And that was our week about conflict!! Y’all have a
great weekend! J
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